new beginning 2016




Today is the final day of 2015. Will you spend this evening looking back at the previous year or years? Are you willing to let go of what was? Are you willing to not dwell on what wasn’t?  Isn’t it interesting how many of us make resolutions for the upcoming year? In reality, each day is a new beginning. As a culture, a new year does represent a new beginning for each of us. It is the time to reflect on the past year and to make plans for the future.

How will you make 2016 better?  Do you want your life to be different in 2016? What are your dreams and desires for this brand new year? Have you repeatedly attempted to change the same problems? Are you stuck? Does fear holds you back from making real change occur in your life or within yourself?

A friend sent me an e-mail that contained a quotation that may be attributed to Thomas Jefferson. I had never heard of it. Since then, I have seen the quotation in several places. It is funny how that works. Synchronicity, I wonder.

“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.”

– Thomas Jefferson

I found myself pondering that sentiment. Recently, I celebrated another AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) birthday. In order to live a life of sobriety, I had to do something I had never done. I went to 12-step meetings. Wow, did that scare me at the beginning! I knew I had a problem with alcohol when I was still living with my former husband and abuser. Even though I accepted that I shouldn’t be drinking so much and that I did not want to be drinking, it was a huge step for me to take action by attending meetings.

In order for me to lessen my post traumatic disorder (PTSD) symptoms and the suicidal brainwashing, I was willing to try non-linear, non-invasive neurofeedback. It was something I had never done; but, I wanted a life without invasive suicidal thoughts and with less PTSD symptoms. NeurOptimal (neurofeedback) worked.

Those are two life-changing ways I took leaps into the unknown to better my life. Other examples include: venturing into pastoral counseling in 2002 to face the truth of the abuse I suffered in order to become a free human being for the first time in my life, beginning a life coaching practice in order to help other survivors thrive, and sharing my story of past abuse and torture in order to educate and/or let others know they are not alone as survivors and can heal. Not all my leaps into the unknown were successful; yet, they all make me who I am now. I like myself now … imperfections and all!

Sometimes we wait until we are desperate to try anything new in order to change our situations or ourselves. That is not necessary though. Life is short. How do you want your life to be different? What changes do you want to make?

As a trauma survivor and a life coach for survivors of abuse, I care that you live the best life you can … the best life you choose for yourself. You are worth it. If you decide you want to connect with me as your life coach, please do. I am here … available … interested in hearing your desires and dreams … willing to support you as you reach your goals. Strength-based life coaching with a mindfulness component explains my style. You have all you need within you. I will travel the road with you … It would be a pleasure!

I leave you with a quote from Fyodor Dostoyevsky:

“Only the heart knows how to find what is precious.”

Where is your heart leading you?