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LIVING with CHRONIC COMPLEX PTSD

LIVING with CHRONIC COMPLEX PTSD   Are you living with chronic complex PTSD? Do you feel ashamed because you or others think you should be better by now? Are your expectations of healing realistic for you? Do you think that after x-amount of months or years of therapy, group therapy, self-help books, etc. that your healing should be finished or at least you should feel more healed?! Are you feeling pressured from others to get better or be better or act better? What is in your control? What expectations are realistic for you? It is difficult to suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or any illness or disorder. An illness or disorder that is not visible may provide different challenges. People tend to have more compassion for a person who has visible wounds, a cast, a wheelchair, etc. or who is recovering from a heart attack or stroke or cancer. When I lived in Germany, I was given the opportunity to perform an act of kindness. Someone asked me to give a ride to an elderly couple that I had never met. This small deed led to a friendship of special proportions. Denise and her husband lived in another part …

depression

DEPRESSION, SOCIETY, LIFE …

DEPRESSION, SOCIETY, LIFE …   Depression, society, life … How does society contribute to an individual’s depression? Why are more people in certain countries (such as the United States) treated with anti-depressants in greater numbers than in other countries? Do anti-depressants work? If anti-depressants are effective, for whom do they work? How long are these pills effective? What are other causes for depression? What solutions are there for treating major depression? Can we find creative ways to lessen one’s darkness? Are there societal prescriptions as well as individual ones? Today I am asking questions. As a person who suffers from major depression as well as PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and panic/anxiety, I find the questions worth asking. The answers vary. Recently I read the book titled “Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions” by Johann Hari.  I highly recommend this book. Whether you agree or disagree with Johann Hari, there are ideas in “Lost Connections” worth considering, pondering, and examining.  (For more information on his book, see: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34921573-lost-connections) Does loneliness enter the picture? What roles do shame and humiliation play in depression? Johann Hari covers these subjects in “Lost Connections”. If you are …

summer

HOW I SPENT MY SUMMER

HOW I SPENT MY SUMMER   How I spent my summer seems to be an appropriate topic for this time of year! Kids, of all ages, are returning to school in many areas of the country. This summer was unusual for me. Circumstances afforded me more free time to not only deal with life issues, but also to spend time on the healing path. I love to read. Books, websites, blogs, and newspapers were all chosen by me. There were days when I found myself reading three books at one time as well as times when no books were in my hands. In this post, I will share some of my favorites as well as a bit of my life during these months. Here are titles of several books which I recommend. “Same Time, Next Week: True Stories of Working Through Mental Illness” --  Lee Gutkind  (The title is self-explanatory. The strength, courage, and the realities of the situations woven throughout the stories make the book worth reading.) “The Broken Girls” – Simone St. James (pure entertainment of a suspense novel with a tad of historical fiction) “The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World” – Dalai Lama ...