HOW WE ATTEMPT TO UNDERSTAND OURSELVES AND OTHER HUMAN BEINGS
Do you know what temperament you had as an infant? What time in your life did the physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse you suffered begin? Was the trauma a one-time occurrence, multiple incidences, or nearly daily? Where you in a domestic violence relationship? Are you in one now? Did you suffer extreme abuse, ritual abuse and/or torture? These are all questions that could be pertinent to how we attempt to understand ourselves and other human beings.
Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
Whose definition do you use to definite the words introvert and extrovert?
Do you think of yourself as a highly sensitive person?
How do you definite highly sensitive?
Are you an empath?
Are you quiet? Shy? Intuitive? Talkative? Out-going?
Do you now suffer from PTSD symptoms or have you in the past?
Recently I read a book titled, “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You” by Elaine N. Aron. It is an older book. Aron defines the traits of a highly sensitive person (HSP). She also expands on the concept to help HSP cope in the world. I did further research into HSP online. What struck me is that 15-20% of humans and animals are highly sensitive. In the animal kingdom, the 20% warn the herd of danger or of changes in the environment.
I also noticed that some of the symptoms of PTSD can also be traits of HSP. That is why I asked the question regarding your temperament as a child.
In the United States, HSP and introverts tend to be considered less capable than extroverts. In fact, that is not true. The intuitiveness of HSP and introverts can alert a manager, a company, a community, or a family that all is not right. Just as a highly sensitive animal alerts the herd, some of us can notify others of changes in the environment sooner.
A book I highly recommend is “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Cannot Stop Talking” by Susan Cain. Cain’s research sheds a positive light on introverts. She also explains the difference between shyness and introversion. As an introvert myself, “Quiet” helped me to realize it was okay to be either an introvert or an extrovert. Susan Cain also has co-founded a Quiet Revolution. Here’s the link:
The blog posts and articles on the Quiet Revolution website are quite interesting for introverts and extroverts alike. I recommend it.
Know thyself. Isn’t that what we attempt to do by reading books, articles, and websites of these types, by participating in support groups, attending therapy sessions, writing personal journals, praying, meditating, walking in nature?
The actual labels do not matter. There need be no judgment attached to whether one is an introvert, an extrovert, a HSP or not. It is important though to be aware of how we are and how we act in certain environments. It is good to know that an inherently introverted person may need to be alone to re-energize. A HSP may respond to normal stimuli in a different manner than the other 80-85% of the population. Extroverts receive energy form social contact. It helps to understand each other as well as ourselves.
As a life coach, I am able to support you as you discover more about yourself, your needs, your desires, and your dreams. As you become more aware, you can implement changes – big and small! I would be pleased to be a part of your journey to freedom, peace and joy!
“To thine own self be true” is on Alcoholics Anonymous chips that a person receives to mark a period of sobriety. I discovered that one must know oneself as well as one is able in order to be true to oneself. It is a journey! Let us support each other in our daily lives as we travel on this road to freedom and peace!