Synchronicity offers us moments to ponder.

Synchronicity is defined in the Webster Dictionary as: the coincidental occurrence of events and especially psychic events (as similar thoughts in widely separated persons or a mental image of an unexpected event before it happens) that seem related but are not explained by conventional mechanisms of causality —used especially in the psychology of C. G. Jung.

A few links that may be of interest to you on this subject are:  “Jung and Synchronicity – The Mystery of Chance”  “The Philosophical Concept of Synchronicity”  “Carl Jung – Synchronicity”

Recently an old childhood friend had been in my thoughts for a few months. Reminders of her and our friendship kept popping into my mind. I used Google to find her. One day, I sent her an e-mail. She responded immediately. Later that week, we connected twice via telephone. We had lost touch somewhere around 2000.

There was much to share between two old friends. I told her my story … of the abuse in my past (in both my childhood and my marriage) … of becoming a protective parent to protect my daughter … of my trial and eventual dismissal of charges (of custodial interference) … of my journey from Spokane to Boulder (via a few nights in a homeless shelter and many compassionate people along the path) … of my healing and spiritual journeys. As I shared my story, it became even more apparent how much I was helped and supported on my path.

As most survivors know, there is usually a bit of hesitancy to share our stories of surviving abuse. Will we be believed? Will we be judged? What will the reaction be?

This old friend gave me the most loving, compassionate response one could desire. (Tears, of course, was my quiet response on the phone. They were tears of joy and wonder at her response.) Her reaction was even more precious to me because she knew my family of origin. A comment from her regarding the darkness she felt in regard to my home of origin meant much to me.

The actual house where I lived as a child is no longer in existence. It is the only house in the immediate vicinity that is gone – totally gone. The last time I looked (via Google), the lot was totally empty. It is kind of eerie and somehow appropriate.

My old friend told me she had been seriously thinking of me before I connected with her. Synchronicity!

Another friend and I made arrangements to try a new restaurant. Six years ago, I met a woman through church whose family owns and runs this local establishment. Although I have seen this woman a few times when I have attended church services, I have not had a chance to connect. (I have never seen this person outside of a half block radius of the church.) Lo & behold, the day before eating at this restaurant as I walked down a very familiar street for me, I ran into this woman. We chatted for a few moments. I mentioned I would be dining at her restaurant the next day. Synchronicity!

Recently I was sad. Relationships can be difficult. I was hurt. Self-pity enters the picture. I know gratitude is an antidote to self-pity. Hours earlier I was thinking of quotation on joy.

“We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”

– Henri J.M. Nouwen

That night as I was again coping with my emotions, I thought to look at one of a handful of mini “smile” cards. I have been in possession of these two inch by two inch cards for a year. I did not realize they opened and contained words. As I held one and discovered how to open it, I reacted with surprise. The words inside were the same ones of Henry J.M. Nouwen that I had been thinking of earlier that day. Synchronicity!

The above are three examples of how synchronicity has been working in my life.

Are you aware of synchronicity in your life?

Many people believe nothing in life is due to chance.

These recent moments of synchronicity made me wonder and ponder about life and life’s flow. It is amazing, isn’t it?